Be a Man

How often have you heard this line, “Be a Man” ? This is famous among all the teens or young wannabes. I myself have heard this, a lot of times, especially when my friends want me to do something mischievous! This one liner changes its role as we move on from being a teen to become young adult of 20’s and then after a decade, we come and knock the door of 30’s. With the growth, we acquire education and become a professional in our respective fields, but that one line remains as it is with almost the same meaning - winning all battles ranging from small to large which also tends to inflate man’s ego from small to medium, then large and finally extra-large. Be a Man also means you need to be perfect at least in all those fields which have been dignifying the role of Man in the world - physical harassment to female, beating someone weaker than you, earning money and showing your partner that you are the leader of your home and you are the only decision making body. You as Man can do everything outside your home, but when you see your own partner doing the same, you think that she has committed a sin. If your partner or someone younger to you gives feedback on any issue, you feel bad and your tons of ego gets hurt and you tend to take action on that person, but why? Oh yes, because of that one line which has been embedded 2-3 decades ago by your friends / relatives / parents. If you are not able to produce a baby for any x, y or z reason, you or your so called society gives you a certificate that you are not a man. If you as a man are not able to support your family with your hard earned money even then you don’t allow your partner to go out to work and help you financially, but why? Because, you think she might get hooked onto someone else, or rather your ego will again not allow you to tolerate this, as you are a man and how can your wife support you or your family or how come she can earn more than you. How disgusting or correct it is from all men’s perspective, probably, I leave this up to all you so called men.

In my opinion, Man is also a human being and a human being will look good, if he does all those things which God has guided him to do. Man is a backbone of any society. We have courageous man like Nelson Mandela and Mahatma Gandhi in the history who fought with mighty umpires to throw them out of their respective countries. Dilip Kumar a great Bollywood actor married 2 females in his life with no baby, but does that mean he is not a man, off course not, he is much better than millions of men in the world. Man is the one who, in spite of all sorts of problems, stands straight and fight with them. Man is one who fights with the situation and live like a normal person after loosing both his legs in an accident. Man is one who is extremely kind hearted. Man is one who can forget and forgive. Man is one who never keeps his foot on other’s shoulder to move up the ladder and achieve his personal goals. Man is the one who protects his family, loves his parents, wife and entire human being.

 It is very easy to say that I am a Man, or Be a Man. Be a Man eventually means, something entirely different and out of the world. Man means courage, kindness, understanding, believing others, developing trust, living a differentially-abled life with a BIG smile on your face, living life like a legionnaire on every single day. Respect and love the poor, respect women and trust your counterparts then only one can actually say, yes I am a man, otherwise you don’t have the right to say that you are a Man or tell others to  “Be a man”. Let’s act like a man and be a man, as this world really needs true men to decrease the number of incidents of thefts, murders, rape, molestation and terrorism, because a true man will never think of doing all these cowardly heinous acts in this beautiful world. So, for Jesus, let’s be a Man.